Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Missed the raksha bandhan!!!!!!!!!!!!

Arey Chandra baghayla surya gela tar pahije…..

This was the statement when kedar my brother called up n told me today is rakhi pournima, tula pournima disat nahi ka… (Can’t u c d full moon today). A small fight followed by a sweet conversation!! After this phone call I stranded for the moment and the memories of all my childhood flashed in front of me… my brother told me few cousins were coming at home for this auspicious occasion n kedar had purposely invited all of them so that he had somebody to tie a the sacred thread. Well this sacred thread actually means nothing beyond an official day for taking a gift, as we really know that our brothers are going to be with us forever in whichever way we need them. But tying a knot reminded us that he is the person whom we can trust upon…
I remember making the naralwadi (coconut cakes), narali bhaat (sweet rice garnished with coconut) and giving kedar a surprise of the sweets and force him to say it is good and I m the best cook. Searching for the rakhee the best dark colour which will suit on fairest hands, so selecting colours like magenta, maroon, aqua, brown, earthy but the design used to be the typical the gonda and silkish thread.
Renu one of my sisters always used to come day before for the stay over. Getting up early in the morning and then convincing kedar for oil massage. This is the tradition that every sister will give him a small oil massage. Kedar used to hate this as we used to put so much oil that he would rather need an hour for his bath to remove the oil from his body.
Followed by the bath we used to have this session of “ovalna”, aarti utarna, again fighting on the smallest issue of “please kunku motha avu nakos”, meaning do not put the tika or tilak to big on his fore head. I used to obey that but renu never… The gift was always something unique and beautiful like pocket money, clothes, a bag, jewellery set etc. Though it is not the tradition of giving something back to brother but I sed to give him a return gift as many times his b’day used to be somewhere nearby so I used to make a point of giftinh him something or the rather and Renu also
Many times it had happened that I and kedar has fought so hard that we swear of not tying the rakhi and him not getting tied from me. But it never happened that way. The apologies were not shared but we used to resolve our fights without saying sorry. We often used to go out for a dinner with other cousins. So it used to be a nice brother sister day.
This year it did not happen that way, I missed everything mentioned above. I missed the rakhi festival. Well I also realize that festivals and celebrations mean a lot in somebody’s life otherwise life is too mundane and monotonous.
Nevertheless life never stops so should we never and getting depressed is neither a solution for this. So I have decided to learn enjoy the missing for somebody or something!

Friday, August 13, 2010

Being a Nomad!

Yet another relocation........

In my one and half years of marriage i have been relocating to places. We started our life with in laws at badlapur, due to some reasons we had to shift to Koperkhairane. we rented a house and started our living..setting up new house, selction of furniture, new kithcen applicances.

It starts with process of budgeting.. how much money can we spend... searching for agenets who can offer a best deal to us in our budget and also cater to our needs of good locality, less of deposit, security, commutability.

When we were searching in India we had surfed www.sulekha.com. we just registered our details n the next moment we started gettting calls from various agents. Coming from office and look for the property. I remember it was rainy season n we used to get irritated with the rains, but we managed to finalised the deal within two days. This was the first major step of our life. We had absolutely no furniture no kitchen appliances to start. So it was a start from zero, we just carried our clothes and two bedside cupboards along with us. All our furniture was designed and bought from Ulhasnagar. Ulhasnagar is cheapest source available to fulfill the basic requirement of house. We booked our sofa set, wardrobe, few extra cupboard etc. We did not go for a bed as we were sure that soon we will be moving to our own house which was under construction. So only basic and minimal requirement was taken care. We were happy that we managed it gracefully.

After few months settling things, we decided to move to Uk for a turn in our life, so again it was packing and unpacking of things. All that we had bought had to be sold out as our own house was not ready to move the furniture. So we sold out our furniture and moved to Badlapur before flying. We were back with the same things of clothes and bedside cupboards only one thing was new the set kitchen.

We started with the same story of searching an acomodation, the parameters were the same, budget, security, commutability etc. Gumtree Uk official solution website. We did surfed a lot on various sites. Luckily we got a best deal. And we shifted to UK in a new location with new people. We did not even had our jobs, so it was again a fresh start and in the new country and a new city.

In a span of one month, when we manage to settle again, Sanju got a job. Job company was awesome, work profile was challenging but the major twist was the relocation to yet another new country and new city. And now these days I am busy with the same search with same parameters.

Although it has taught me many new things, like deciding on location with google maps, how to get our exact needs,taking care of the wieght of luggage so what to buy what to avoid, how agressive and quick we should be in dealing with real estate etc. etc.

In this process of changing, relocating there is tensions, and a fear of how and where will we live, we spent money which we cannot avoid,packing things all that you have arranged it nicely and discarding things because sometimes you just can't carry, but there is an excitement for yet another new phase.

With everybody's blessings we did overcome these steps nicely and I am sure we continue as it is my strong belief that good things happen to good people. There are hurdles, problems but always for the betterment. So keep moving in life always and welcome everything that comes to your way.

And there is one more sure relocation which is going to take place of moving into our own house but god only knows when and before that how many..

I will always say.. yet another relocation.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Life is You!

Life is You;
Life is beyond people
Life is beyond things
Life is nothing but “you” and only “you”
It’s you who create and bring happiness in “your” life
And its you who destroy “yourself”
Its not love, lust, not the addiction not the obsession
Which take your life?
It’s you who give up and live up to these things only…
Life is beyond all this
Crying, sobbing for a person
Spending, enjoying with friends
Splurging money
If you have money is that your life……
If you have friends is that your life…..
If you have love is that your life……
If you answer this question as ‘yes’ Remember it says
If you have
That you is important
Life is nothing but you
Let that you be someone whom the person are happy with,
Proud to be associated with
This ‘you’ should be
Fearless of failures open to change, learning from good/bad experience
Committing and accepting mistakes
Life is beautiful somebody as rightly said
But only if you make it
Or else ugly never to be looked upon
Don’t limit your life only to money
Only to success
Only to friends
Life do comprises all of these things
Only because of you
Life exists for you, if you exist
No you…….no life
Know you……know life
Life is beyond these words put forth
Search for it
It will come back to only “you”
It’s easy to fall for something
But to rise is courage
“you should be courageous to fight for
Stand up for all the goods and rights
In life
It’s no big deal if you do bad things
That is the path chosen of your life
But it will always be respected if you do one good thing
Let this be “your” way
This should not come from the feeling of
Pleasing and appreciativeness
It should come from within
You are important
It’s your life
Life is YOU and only YOU

Monday, August 9, 2010

Life is Beautiful! 😚

Life is beautiful with Sanju.. he is the love.. he accepted me as I am n decided to be with me today n forever.. This poem is a short description of blooming love between us.. let me take you through my love life...
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Life is beautiful
Is all d gal can say,
With a man in her life,
Worthy to praise
The meet was in the party,
The man with few words,
And the girl with little silence,
They hardly interacted,
Just exchanged their gtlk id’s
To check their compatibility for the life ahead.
Days, evenings, nights 
Went on chats,
To understand each other’s
Life’s facts.
The guy fell in love with her.
Her honest, positivity and liveliness
Made him crazy,
Though for the gal it wasn;t that easy.
Things were going fine amongst them,
They used to enjoy each other’s company ,
But people around them,
In their talks taking their names.
The guy found his soul mate ever
And was waiting for the gal
To make her his, forever.
They guy had to take the decision,
As people were demanding,
The gal was scared and kept thinking
When they were ways apart,
They came closer,
The gal made her mind and thought,
That he could be her’s forever.
With parent’s and Star’s approval,
Things were set.
A confirmed yes, though a bit late.
Love, genuineness and to be a friend,
Is what both have decided to take their eternal end
The guy got his love,
His dreams and fantasies came true,
The gal got all she needed
Indeed a life New!!!!
This life is beautiful
Full of love and care,
To maintain it,
Is the responsibility of the pair
Arguments, fights
Are the part and parcel of husband and wife,
But they have promised to overcome,
Always in their life.
So a calm guy and a brat gal,
Will tie their knots soon,
With everybody’s blessings,
It will turn into a boon…